The life changing magic of not giving a F*ck is all about prioritising. Joy over annoy. Choice over obligation.Sarah Knight
The life changing magic of not giving a F*ck | Sarah Knight
Sarah Knight is a freelance author and editor who graduated from Harvard University. She has created a funny, informative and practical book in The life changing magic of not giving a F*ck. Her tips on mental decluttering and mindset give you practical advice and things you can do right now to stop yourself caring about things that don’t really matter. The subtitle of “how to stop spending time you don’t have with people you don’t like doing things you don’t want to do” encapsulates the message of the book perfectly.
How much of your life do you spend people pleasing? What about stressing over things you cant control? Or overthinking? Maybe you need to embrace Knights ‘NotSorry method’ (a clear parody of Marie Kondo’s KonMari method) and learn to spend your time wisely and reject negative emotions. You should take everything and ask yourself ‘Does this annoy?’ – if it does, you should stop giving a F*ck about it!
Whilst it might be easier said than done, the power of saying ‘No!’ cant be understated, as puts you back in control of your life. Knight gives a few basic examples like declining invitations to baby showers (or equally as annoying events), unfriending annoying people on Facebook and wearing less makeup. She says if you learn to say ‘No!’ that “your spirit will be lighter, your calendar will be clearer, and your time and energy will be spent on only the things and people you enjoy”. This is exactly hat someone on the path to Financial Independence needs.
To help you say no, Knight recommends;
- Be honest and polite when you say No (but not too honest or polite! Generalisations are fine, and help to avoid people taking it personally)
- Start with small annoyances and progressively work toward bigger ones
- Don’t take part in everything just because it seems ‘trendy’
- Recognise the destructive marketing power of the internet and social media: limit your part in “social Madness”
- Don’t be afraid to let go (of people or things, but especially to toxic or destructive people)
- If you HAVE to give a F*ck because its beyond your control, make plans to recharge your batteries afterwards